Has to be when you think (or even know) that a friend is in trouble or danger, and you can do nothing about it. I cannot describe how horrible this feeling is.
My friend is gay, and has a lot of support, but there’s also quite a bit of negative feelings towards him (I’m worried someone will try to hurt him). On top of this, the friends that surround him (not my group of friends) seem to have nothing on their minds but get one of the following, or a combination of: drunk, completely baked, “effed up,” or in trouble.
He texts me last night saying “I’m drunk and don’t know where I am”
And there was nothing I could do. And I hate it. I cannot help him, and it saddens me like nothing else. He worries me, but I don’t think he realizes how much. He frustrates me, because instead of haning out with people who will love and accept him for who he is, no matter what (my friends), and love to hang out without the use of some third part substance (my friends again), he hangs around the kind of people I mentioned before. My friends and I like toremember the night before, and all the fun times we’ve had.
Isn’t it rather pointless to hangout, but get so baked or smashed that you can’t even remember having fun, or who you had fun with, or where, or when?
I struggle on a daily basis with being “the good child.” How prude is too prude? I mother people too much already because I love them, and because I don’t like it when people do things that could hurt themselves. He feels like a little brother. I’m especially protective of my siblings, or people that feel like a sibling. It bothers me when I can do nothing, but feel like I should be able to.
As a plea to the public in general: any advice?